Do you feel the difference?
Do you feel the contempt?
Do you feel the hatred?
Most women call it “the c-word.” Most of us can’t bear the sound of it. Most women think it is the single most devastating word you can use against us.
There is no equivalent insult to a man. None. When you say that the three words shown above are equivalent to “cunt,” you are lying, and what’s more, we all know you’re lying—and you know you’re lying.
When a man calls a woman a cunt, he is calling her nothing more than an object that he can thrust his dick into. "You're a cunt" means "I can fuck you." And when a man calls a woman a cunt in a certain way, he is also telling her that he can fuck her—whether or not she wants it. We hear it. We feel it. We know it. The message is received.
“Dick” has become synonymous with "jerk." Nobody ever uses “cunt” to mean “jerk.” It was a great laugh-line in the first X-Men movie: Wolverine hated Cyclops, Cyclops hated Wolverine, and when Wolverine was asked to prove he was himself and not the [female] shape-shifter, he said, “You’re a dick,” to Cyclops, who grinned and walked away. The audience laughed.
Picture that scene with the word “cunt” substituted. You can’t. Substitute two women in the scene, and then picture it with the word “cunt” used. You still can’t. That is not the way the word is used. The word "cunt" is used explicitly, exclusively, to reduce a woman's entire worth to her vagina, and to make her think that because she is a woman, and has a vagina, she is less than a man.
The purpose of calling a man a dick, a prick, even a cock? Not the same. The power is still there. He is still a man’s man, and what’s more, he is now the instrument that gets thrust into the cunt.
When a man wants to truly insult another man, these are the words he uses:
Cocksucker. Pussy. Faggot. Homo. Queer. Wuss.
All of these words mean: You are less than full male. And one of them is a synonym for—of course—“cunt.”
When a man wants to go for the big insult, this is what he says:
“Suck my dick.”
“Suck my cock.”
There is no reverse for a woman. It doesn’t work that way. It’s a power thing. These phrases are so much more than mere insult. When used against a woman, they are threats.
"Eat me." Translation: You are my inferior. Service me.
"Suck my dick." Translation: Get down on your knees and service me, bitch.
"Suck my cock." Translation: I can make you get down on your knees and service me. Bitch.
There is nothing—nothing—in the English language that converts these threats to the feminine form.
The tangents that men go on to prove that cunt is not really that much of an insult are smoke and mirrors. You can talk about etymology. You can talk about the commonality of the c-word in the U.K. You can talk about modern usage changing its meaning. You can talk about other hurtful words, and pretend that people are overreacting about their use, too. And we still know that when you call us cunt, you say it with contempt, and you use it with hate, and your only purpose is to
Spare us the bullshit. Spare us the lectures on getting over it. Spare us the discussion on taking back the word for ourselves. It was never ours to begin with. It was always yours, and it will always remain yours. We don't want it. The hurt, now—that will remain ours, for as long as that word is in use.
Do you feel the difference?